Wednesday, June 9, 2010
Are you friends with someone solvent?
Or are you doing well—and embarrassed because you don’t have the money woes of some people you know?
There are disparities even in the houses on the same block. Personally, I am in dire straits and many people I know are, too, but I do know some with jobs and a healthy income throughout this mess.
One man I know calls me from the East Coast every so often and cheerily announces, "No economic problems here."
The other day, my sister, whose husband makes a great income, picked up two glasses in the store just because she liked them. She has 50 tumblers at home. I finally said, “Do you really need those?” She said, “Oh, I will find some use for them.”
I can’t help it—this makes be upset. I know it shouldn’t, but it does.
Beth Kobliner wrote about this in the June 2010 Working Mother.
It can get tense between differently situated friends and relatives. When this happens, Kobliner says the poorer party should avoid costly situations like dinners out. Send your regrets.
Set family money rules. You maybe can’t get a new car or go to the beach. Don’t worry about it. Even kids have to learn you don’t get to do everything that crosses your mind.
If you have a friend who’s a great saver, call her before you buy something. Talk it through.
Look at what you do have—that cute dog from the shelter, a pretty garden, healthy trees (my thing), a few laughs.
Is it really going to be improved with a new water glass?
A friend told me the other day, "Good friends, good food, and pay what you can."