Monday, December 8, 2014
If your spouse cheats, then what
Virtually everyone who gets married, expects their spouse to maintain that trust, he says. But, as m any as 40% of married people cheat.
This can be devastating--31% of men and 45% of women blame cheating for marital separation.
The destruction of trust is worse than the physical aspect of cheating. Feelings of hurt, anger, rage--we all know this personally or know someone close who has experienced it--or both.
If you want to stay in the marriage, Walter says:
--The infidelity must stop. Completely.
--You must consider your motives--staying isn't a given. Sometimes the cheated-on mate will blame themselves and stay out of insecurity. Or people do it for the children's sake. Decide why you want to stay.
--Get help--counseling gives an outside view, things you never thought about.
You can break through the recriminations to a better place--the spouse may be in that better place--or not.