Monday, April 27, 2015
Quit groveling at work
A study done at the Univ of Waterloo in Canada found women tend to say they are sorry more than men.
People who do this all the time want everyone to be happy. They want to be liked.
But it is impossible to control what others think.
If you really did something wrong, sure, apologize. But people now apologize before doing anything.
"I am sorry to take up so much of your time."
"I am sorry--this is probably not what you are looking for."
"Sorry--I should have spent more time on this."
This makes you sound less than confident--and people lose confidence in you
It is not easy to break this habit. Sometimes you might even need to ask a friend to point out when you do it--it can be that automatic.
Sorry--did I go on too long with this?