Friday, May 29, 2015
Workarounds can increase your sense of control
But--he says--there is also an another method--secondary control--where you adapt to facts of life that cannot be bent to human will.
Both contribute to a sense of well-being.
They set up an experiment where people exerted primary and secondary control. Primary control was the only one associated with negative moods. Viz: Gal in the picture.
Looking at the big picture, they decided, being more reflective promoted more feelings of daily happiness, warmth, and peace--even in the presence of negative experiences.
You can have satisfaction with how you handled things--even if you are not deliriously happy.
Secondary control does not have to be passive, second-best, last-resort...as it is often depicted.
In other words, it's like I always say--"You can't write a script and get people to read it--except in the movies."